Ada didn't believe
what she was seeing. Two lines? "How is that even possible?" she
thought. "I can't be pregnant. Not now, not just yet."
She took another home
pregnancy test and another and yet another. Those two lines refused to budge.
Suddenly, she felt like her world had just collapsed. Coming out of the
bathroom, she went to sit on the bed.
"How do I handle
this? This is definitely not part of the plan," she thought. “How did this
even happen?"
She had been using oral
contraceptives for three months so when she had started feeling very tired and
sleepy for no reason, it hadn't crossed her mind that she could be pregnant.
She had only resumed work a month ago so she had thought that had been the
reason for the bone-crushing exhaustion she had been experiencing lately. Her
husband's cologne had made her nauseous yesterday, as they had dressed for
work. It had hit her then that her period had been delayed by over a week. The
past weeks had been really busy at work so she had not noticed that fact. Ada's
cycle had always been regular so, for the first time, the possibility of a
pregnancy had crossed her mind. Without telling him her suspicions,
she had bought five pregnancy test strips from the pharmacy on her way home
from work yesterday. She had been afraid of what she would discover so she had
waited till today to run a test.
A sharp, piercing cry
interrupted her musing. Her five-month old son had just woken up. Ada had
decorated his nursery by herself, while she was pregnant with him and it was a
very beautiful one but she didn't want him sleeping there till he was a bit
older. She always wanted him close to her, as often as possible so, he still
slept in his parents’ room. Going quickly to his cot, she picked the baby up
and discovered that her son needed a diaper change. Carefully and efficiently,
she undressed him and dealt with his dirty diaper. No matter how many times she
had touched his bare skin, she still marveled at how very smooth and soft it
was. Talking gently to him, she nursed the now-happy baby.
The baby was still nursing when Michael came into the room. He came over to the bed and sat with
them, draping his arm over his wife’s shoulders. He cooed to their son who
looked at his father with big, brown eyes. When he realized that his wife was unusually quiet, Michael looked into her face and saw the worry there.
"What is the
matter, babe?" he asked her. Getting no response from her, Michael
said, "Ada, talk to me, okay. Is there any problem that I don't know
about?"
In a small voice, she
replied, "I'm pregnant."
He quickly removed his
arm from her shoulders and stood immediately. Shocked, he said, “But, you're on
the pill. How can you be pregnant?"
"Sweetie, I have no
clue."
"I thought they
were reliable."
"Apparently,
they're not."
"We cannot have a
baby now because the timing is just so wrong," Michael said. "It'll
alter a lot of the plans we have made for our lives. We're still trying to
adapt to having one child. We’re still trying to make sense of the sleepless nights,
the numerous lifestyle changes, and all the huge responsibilities that come
with having someone so young depend on us. Moreover, David is just five months
and still breastfeeds! Have you thought about how having another child so soon
after David is going to stretch our finances? We would have to get another
nanny for the new baby by the time you have to go back to work and the only way
we can afford that is if our standard of living were to drop. Ada, no way are
we doing this."
"What exactly are
you saying, Michael? Did you just indirectly tell me that we would abort our
child? Was that you talking so flippantly about terminating the pregnancy or
was that someone else? Did you just suggest that because having another child
now is inconvenient, we should just go ahead and kill our child? How can
you even suggest a thing like that while sitting this close to your son?'
"Listen, babe. I'm
only laying down the facts as they are. We, definitely, cannot have this child!
Maybe, you didn't take the pills the way you were supposed to. That, most
likely, is why we are in this mess."
Ada was still reeling
from Michael’s suggestion of an abortion so when he placed the blame for the
second child on her, she was at a loss for words. She really didn't known why
she had become pregnant. She had thought about that as soon as she realized
that she was pregnant again and still couldn't come up with a reason. Looking
back, she didn't remember ever skipping a dose or taking the pills
inappropriately. "I can't do this now, please. Neither of us is thinking
rationally at the moment," she said now. "Can we discuss this
later?"
"I am thinking very
rationally. You're not," Michael replied and stormed out of the room.
A week and many
arguments later, they finally come to a conclusion on the matter; Ada was
going to abort the pregnancy. No matter how she had felt about it, initially,
she now agreed with him.
After David's birth, Ada hadn't been able to get a nanny before her maternity leave was over so,
she had sought approval for an extension of her leave, by a month, on
compassionate grounds. She had not been paid for the extra month she took.
In the months since she
was away from work, a lot of changes had been made in the organization she
worked in and she was at a point in her career where she could not afford to
take time off again to go have another baby.
Michael and Ada had
made a lot of changes in their lifestyle for one baby. Two babies, both of them
finally agreed, they might not be able to deal with. David’s nanny didn’t
live-in so she went home every evening as soon as either of his parents came
home from work. She didn’t also work on weekends so David’s parents now had a
social life that had become almost non-existent as a result of the amount of
time they had to spend with their son. They had been looking forward to him
getting older so that they could get back into the swing of things. Both of
them couldn't see that happening if they had a second baby so soon after his
first birthday.
When they went to a private
clinic for the pregnancy to be terminated, Ada wanted to know why she had
become pregnant even though she had been on the pill. After asking her some
questions, the doctor discovered that some weeks ago,
Ada had experienced a
mild case of a urinary tract infection and had been on a short course of
antibiotics. The doctor speculated that the drug interactions might have
reduced the effectiveness of the oral contraceptives Ada had been taking.
"Before abortions
are carried out in this hospital, we carry out ultrasound scans. This is
because we have to know the stage of the pregnancy. This is to enable us
determine the type of treatment to be used," the doctor said. "There
are different procedures for terminating a pregnancy but the one used is dependent
on the stage of the pregnancy. So, when you're done with the scan, we would
know if and how to proceed with a termination."
Ada and her husband
refused going for a pre-abortion counselling offered by the hospital because
their minds were made up. They just wanted it over so that they could go home.
During the scan, while
the sonographer was viewing the screen of the ultrasound machine, Ada suddenly
asked him to turn it to her.
"Babe, there's no
need for that," Michael said. "You don't have to put yourself through
that."
The sonographer
hesitated, looking from Ada to Michael and back to Ada.
"Turn it to me,
please," Ada repeated.
The man turned the
screen to Ada and when she saw what she had been looking for, she burst into
tears. "Come, my love. Come see our baby," she told her husband,
reaching out a hand to him.
Michael had not wanted
to view the screen at all. So, he had taken a seat as far away, from the bed
his wife lay on, as possible. In his mind, this was no celebration. It
certainly wasn't like when she was pregnant with David when both of them had
excitedly looked at their tiny son on a screen. But, he went to Ada still
because he knew that his wife needed him. He was very determined to do whatever
he could to help her get through what they had come to do.
As soon as he looked at
the screen, he saw exactly what she had. That was some sight. He then
understood why she was crying when he saw their baby's heart pulsating very
strongly. He could clearly see that proof of life. The pregnancy couldn't
possibly have been over seven weeks old then but the baby was already fighting
to live.
"Why should I
be the one to take the decision that would end this life?" Michael asked himself
and with tears rolling down his face, he said to his wife, 'We're having our
baby!"
It was three a.m. and
Ada had been pacing the floor of their living room for the past hour. Her
hospital bag was just by the door. Michael had been amazing all through
her pregnancy but she knew he just might fall apart as soon as he knew she was
in labour. So, she hadn't wanted to wake him till they absolutely needed to be
on their way to the hospital. However, unlike her experience with David,
this baby seemed to be in a hurry to be born.
Her request for a
maternity leave had been turned down because her employers said that she
couldn't take another three months leave less than a year after she had resumed
work, after the last maternity leave. If there was no favourable resolution, Ada would, most likely, resign from her employment.
Ada and Michael knew
that for a while, they might experience some financial setbacks. But they knew
that they were in this together. Their love for each other and their children
would pull them through any challenges they faced. That was their decision.
That, was the vow they made to each other.
"Wake up,
sweetie," she said, shaking Michael gently. "It's time."
As he woke, another
contraction hit her and she groaned. He didn't need to be told that he had to
be alert, immediately. He quickly jumped out of the bed because he knew that he had to dress up in
a hurry. As he was about walking past his wife, he stopped.
He bent to her very
pregnant belly and kissed it. He whispered, "See you soon, princess."
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ReplyDeleteBeautiful story Ola.
Wow! If not for that single act! A life would have been terminated! But for God's divine intervention thru science!
ReplyDeleteAwwwwww u gonna make me cry Ola, thank God for ultra sounds, its good to know dat as soon as u miss dat period,that baby growing in u is a living thing......Nice one Ola!
ReplyDeleteSo touching! A man has to be sensitive to his wife's emotions cos like the sayin "they are the weaker sex". It goes a long way to show how much he is going to be there for her when she needs him and in issues like this so called unwanted pregnancies i feel nobody has d right to take life no matter how insignificant it looks cos its nt a baby yet cos God has a plan for every life he gives so having to terminate life is like aborting Gods plan. But guys watch it o,no go born football team cos God has a plan for giving life o. Just take necessary precautions to avoid unwanted pregnancies. Superb Ola
ReplyDeleteSimply beautiful writing Olaedo,for if the baby could pass through the barriers of oral contraception to be inplanted in Ada's womb,it is a sure sign of God's hand and plan for that child,Ginikanwa!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteThanks, people :)
ReplyDeleteLife, no matter how old, is most definitely precious.
so touching!
ReplyDeletethat's a wonderful story, i don't believe in abortion, i still wonder if i can abort a child if i got pregnant by rape ...not sure about that one..
ReplyDeleteThanks, Amy :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Jemima. That baby from a rape incident is no less a baby than a love child.
Rape is a very terrible, very sad and very unfortunate circumstance, definitely but, a child is a child. Life begins at conception, afterall.
Nice one Ola good job
ReplyDeleteThanks, Anonymous :)
ReplyDeleteOhhh, your story is so touching. This scenario is exactly playing out in my life right nww. Discovered I was preg when my baBy wz just 6 months. Oh dear, it waz a shocker to me and hubby. Hubby said we can't have d third baby cos he only wanted 2. I reluctantly agreed to his decision of I having an abortion. I went to a private clinic, registered, did d ultrasound and all. My heart wz still heavy, bt wz on it to make my hubby happy. On d d-day of the proposed abortion , we had already set out on our journey when I suddenly started thinking of d life growing inside of me. I just bursted out, wailing dt I can't go thru' it. Hubby wz kind of disgusted , bt I insisted dt I must have dis child. God knows why he implanted him in me. Hubby reminded me of what I wil go thru' if I continue to go ahead. I told him I wil be prepared , dt I understand it won't be easy fr me bt dt I can't kill my child. We had to start going back oooo. Nw I am in my 33wks and I am so loving my baby. Can't wait for him to show his face( it's a he, just like I wanted). His name is chibuikem dereck.so so excited. It won't be easy in d long run bt d most important thing is dt mommy and daddy love him. His siblings are already looking forward to welcoming him into this world.
ReplyDeleteOnyinye, I'm so thrilled for you. You made the best decision, keeping him. God bless you loads for that.
ReplyDeleteChibuikem Derek is a blessed child. He has a mummy who, most definitely, loves him. Take care, okay. In a little while, he'll be here.
Congrats in advance.
Onyinye; Congrats on his Chibuikem Derek's birth. I'm sure he's beautiful. Kisses for him and a big hug for you.
ReplyDeleteYes o! The baby is healthy and handsome. I was meant to be there at the delivery but the boy was in such a hurry to see the world and popped out before I could make it to the hospital!;)
ReplyDeleteCongrats to my bestie, Onyii.
Thanks ola. I love my son, words cannot describe it and he didnt allow mummy to go through so much stress in having him. Delivered like the hebrew woman. Swe swe, thanks. U are a true friend. Remember dt gown ooo, work towards it.
ReplyDeleteI know I am about 100 yrs late but…great post. Awesome story!!
ReplyDeleteIn the midst of her; Thank you!:):)
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