WAITING (im)PATIENTLY


About a week ago, I noticed Ikem in their room trying to scribble on a book. He was having a hard time with it because as I quickly noticed, the lead at the tip of his pencil had broken off. I took the pencil away from him to sharpen it for him.
He quickly came after me and started throwing the kind of tantrum only an almost-two-year old can pull off. Crying and stamping his feet, he insisted that I give it back. I didn't say a word to him as I continued sharpening the pencil. As soon as I was done, I gave it back to him and the crying ceased immediately. Looking at the pencil, he quickly noticed the difference, rewarded me with "tan tan" and went back to his book.


There are a number of things that I am waiting for. Some of them are dreams which are really important to me so I'm excitedly looking forward to them coming to life. Others are little irritations that I can't wait to do away with.
This morning, I had a reason to think about one of those important dreams that hasn't been birthed as well as a few of those minor irritations that I still had to deal with. In my mind, I stamped my feet and railed against the circumstances that were annoying me at the time. I heard that unmistakable Voice try to calm me but I closed off my heart from listening. Somehow, at that moment, the big dream and the minor irritations all seemed tied together. I forgot that the dream was work-in-progress and would soon come to life by His grace. I also forgot that I have always been able to deal with those minor irritations because of Him who continually gives me strength.
In a snit, I started with my chores. I wanted to be left alone too till my head was sane again. As I worked, some of that red haze cleared and I realized that just like my son had done earlier, I had been throwing a tantrum, as well. Our methods may have been different. But, just like he had done, I had acted tired of waiting. I had also forgotten that I knew a little of what the bigger picture is. The realization that I had been wrong cleared up the remaining haze and I saw that while throwing a tantrum, some of the things I had been irritated by are actually my most major blessings. At that point, I was filled with remorse.


A lot of the time, when we want something, we want it immediately. When we realize that whatever it is that we want is just not happening as quickly as we want it to, we stamp our feet and just let everything else suffer. In our misery, we act like without whatever it is we are waiting for, our lives are just unbearable.
In my little boy's case, he didn't know what the bigger picture was. I didn't even try to explain it to him because I knew that whether he understood it, at that point, or not, I was actually working things out for his own good.
Maybe an explanation might have helped him handle the situation better, I would never know now.
Maybe, even if I had explained, he would have still insisted on having his broken pencil just as it was. That wouldn't have been a surprise because that's how we all are, at one point or the other.


Everyone has something they are waiting for. Sometimes, as in my case this morning, we have an idea of what the big picture would look like but that doesn't prevent us from wishing that the Artist would be done quickly with that painting. We often do not realize that it's not just a haphazard process of flinging paint unto a canvass. It's a process that involves a careful selection of beautiful colours and appropriate tools.
Oil paints are expensive paints which allow for a demonstration of great detail. Before they can be used for a painting, the canvass has to be primed first and even after the painting is done, it takes a longer drying-time than if water-based paints had been used. However, the result is very impressive and also stands the test of time.
Work doesn't also end as soon as the painting is done. The Artist has to clean up the paint from unwanted places. Only then can His job be truly done.
Only the Artist can interpret the picture in His heart unto the canvass. So, no matter how much we stamp our feet, we can never take over His job as He patiently works out the kinks to ensure that the beautiful picture He's painting stands the test of time.


Waiting to have that miracle baby?
Waiting for a new career to kick off? 
Waiting for someone else to recognize that you are the one for them?
Waiting for that house to be completed?
Waiting for that spouse to remember how much they had once loved you?
Waiting for that phase of life to be over so that you can move on to the next?
When we hire anyone to do some work for us, it's usually because we think that they are the best we can afford at the time. It is also because we trust and expect them to do a more than decent job. So, if we are sure that the One who is in charge of our affairs holds the world in the palm of His hands, what's not to trust, really?


A genuine smile doesn't just start and end on the lips. It comes from somewhere deep within and spreads light and warmth everywhere it falls on. Whatever it is you are waiting for, don't let the world steal your beautiful smile. That may just be the only weapon you have that would help you wait better.
Remember, the reason it's taking so long to be done may be that He's making a beautiful oil-painting for you.
He may still be priming the canvass that is you.
He may still be carefully applying these expensive paints in colours that would light you up.
He may even have finished the painting but is still not done with the work because He is cleaning up now with the best and most expensive materials... Only for you.


That same day, the lead of Ikem's pencil broke off again and he brought it to me to sharpen. This time, he didn't cry at all... Note to self....Another lesson learnt.

27 comments:

  1. somayina11:32 pm

    Hmmmmmmmm....now I'm going to sleep thinking about this post. Kudos, Ola.

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  2. Wow! You are truly Godsent! Dis piece is really meant for me right now. Bless you dear. You never know how your writings impact lives...looking forward to sharing my testimony with you, soooooonnnnn , I pray!

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  3. Patience is really a virtue my sista...lovely message in dere!

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  4. Anonymous9:12 am

    Nice one Ola, ur write-ups as usual are quite inspirational and touching. Not sure why u studied science, U possess a great gift(writing). Thanks for the exposition.

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  5. Anonymous2:49 pm

    Hmmm, God help me to wait patiently without tantrums. Expecting an oil paint potrait too.
    Godbless you Olaedo

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  6. Ada nnem, Wow!!!
    Big picture or not, you have no idea of what a blessing your blog has been to so many, especially the way you communicate these nuggets of wisdom. In due season, God shall establish His plan for our lives. xoxo

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  7. Anonymous9:31 pm

    wow, wow, wow. I don't know you personally, but I do follow your blog, i got the link first from your sister in law, Chichi who is my friend, and I then found out that you are a friend to my former roommate in uni (Hazel). I had to ask her, what you do for a living because I felt you will do really well as a writer. You do know how to pass your messages across, painting very graphical images in your readers' minds and holding us enthralled till the last word. Keep it up my dear, there's a lot of wisdom in your words. God bless you real good.

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  8. Yennie10:34 pm

    Once again you got me wrapped up in this.Yes,showing again what we should look out for. Lesson learnt indeed but I wonder if I will ever cut out these irritations etc as they r constant reminders that I am but human.God bless you

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  9. Somayina; Nne, I went to bed thinking of it too ;) Thanks, dear.

    Oge; Thanks, dear. I so love testimonies so I'm looking forward to hearing yours :):)

    Ng; Yes, it is, nne :)

    Anon 09:12; Thanks so much. As to why I went the scientific route... Hmmm... Let's just say that I wanted to appease my brain ;) You're right about the writing being a gift cos, honestly, I can't explain how it works. I can only thank the Giver by using it right :)

    Anon 14:49; Amen! God bless you too! Your oil-painting will be done in vivid colours.... Just hold on a bit :)

    Ujuu; Ulu nne m ;) Thanks, sis. Yeah, valuable and beautiful oil-paintings all round o!

    Anon 21:31; You not so anonymous anymore, ℓσℓ. Asked Hazel about you. Thanks so much for the compliments It's all God, though.... Completely Him so to Him be the glory. God bless you real good too :)

    Adaeze; Thanks, girl! Giving my thoughts the same food too ;);)

    Yennie; My sis from another mother, you are proof to me that these 'irritations' can be cut out so keep doing what it is that you do. He's taking care of those oil-paintings of yours ;) God bless you too, dear.

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  10. Beautiful one. Thanks for sharing this

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  11. Ema; You're welcome, girl :)

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  12. What else can I say? The Artist did a very good job on you.

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  13. Okeoghene; Thank you so much! :) He's not done yet too... I'm so thrilled about that

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  14. first time here and i can't imagine the writing. very good i must say. thank you for the comments on my blog.
    www.secretlilies.blogspot.com

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  15. Ibifiri; Thanks for the compliment and thanks for dropping by :)You're welcome too :)

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  16. emeka ojukwu esq.5:54 am

    Another inspiring piece. Wow. You are here for such a time as this. A blessing to our generation. Keep it up. God bless. I celebrate You.

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  17. Emeka; Thank you, dear. God bless you too :)

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  18. Colettoo1:52 am

    I always take my time to read ur beautiful piece and i never get disappointed. Patience is a virtue......... God help us ooo cos i lose it sometimes.

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  19. Coco; My sister, you're not alone in the struggle with impatience. May God help us never to forget that He's the Artist, creating a masterpiece.

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  20. Anonymous11:33 am

    you have a great blog here! would you like to make some invite posts on my blog?

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  21. In this life's constant struggles it's so eàsy to forget that THE ONE who knows our end from the beginning has us safe in the arms of HIS love,if only we could always remember....beautiful piece ola,of course you know i m ur no 1 fan.His work in you is ònly just evolving..i know it.

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  22. Ella; Thanks, sweetie. Yeah, I know it too so I've put on my dancing shoes :):)

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  23. really inspiring piece. Thanks for reminding me on the importance of waiting patiently.

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  24. Ify; Thank you. It was a reminder for me too :)

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  25. Oh my goodness.. This is an amazing post. Sometimes its not only church where we can hear a person preach to us and feel like our mind is being renewed. I graduated in june and have been looking for just any job to get by yet haven't had one. And in countless situations, I've found myself moaning about it, then saying thank you to God, then moaning all over again. But God is so faithful because I know that in the past when things seemed not the way I had wanted them to be, He made them all work out for good. God is forever for us and will never leave us. He cares for our every need and will always give us nothing but the best. Thank you Jesus

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  26. xflashinLITESx; Thank you so much:)Yeah, He gives us the best... more than we ever hoped for nor imagined. He sure is an AWESOME God!

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